Forever Onward books and thought

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FOREVER ONWARD

We will never be what we know but will always become something we understand.

Forever Onward

The first mantra that shaped the journey.

The End Is The Beginning

Two mantras on different ends of the same spectrum.

Singular Thought

The detail within psychology and the path through STTT.

Forever Onward

FOREVER ONWARD

Forever Onward was probably one of the first “mantras” I ever heard. It came from a person who ended up becoming very influential in my life, but, like most influences, you don’t always want to hear what they have to say. At this point in my life, I don’t hear very much anymore, but I understand how to listen to myself and am working very hard to listen to others better. I’ve concluded that we will never be what we know but will always become something we understand. As time has gone on and reality has thrown a lot of my plans and ideas into the dirt, I’ve developed my own mantra, which is “The end is the beginning”. I’ve concluded that, like most things in life, “Forever Onward” and “The end is the beginning” are two of the same but just on different ends of the spectrum. Like, take one for the team, and karma is the same; it comes down to which one gets there first.

I’ve concluded that we will never be what we know but will always become something we understand.

I have a lot of patients questioning the usefulness of therapy and integrated health in general. They quote, “don’t get anything out of it”. My patented “WTF” expression often gives away the gigantic counter-intuitive thinking they are conveying. I explain to them that therapy and health are about pouring usefulness into us because much of life is about encountering people, places, and things that want to extract something from us. After all, emotional non-starters mostly end up being emotional non-enders in our lives. This book is mostly about “the bite of the thought,” which keeps the mind going back to being repeatedly bitten. In my observation as a therapist, there are no random thoughts but missed opportunities to understand the details within us. It doesn’t matter if you move forward through a problem or situation if you leave the same unhealthy thought behind. Understanding small details within ourselves is much better than trying to be transparent to everything on the outside. The singular thought will always be “the detail” within psychology. And just like the doormat and the traffic cone, its influence will always be bypassed for more complex constructs and systems within the integrated behavioral health field. Transparency shows us how something appears to work, but details show it doesn’t even exist. No matter how sophisticated or complex something is, if it doesn’t acknowledge the smallest detail within the system, it’s doomed to fail. I came to understand this while running and flailing from deck to deck on the “Titanic.” Wearing water wings during the anatomy and medical terminology/pathology courses within my doctoral program. I understood that the majority of the most lethal and chronic diseases started from the microscopic cellular levels, which parallels the singular thought in the body of psychology. The reason a lot of my patient’s state that they don’t get anything out of therapy or health and self-help is because connected doesn’t mean integrated. It’s right up there with building Long John Silver’s and Popeye’s together, only separated by a wall. This should come as no surprise when systems set up other systems, along with the absurd accusation that people are thoughtless. Well, never give a self-starter a head start. What you read in this book will be my attempt to not only explain what the Severe and Profound is, but also to develop an integrative behavioral model through the lens of a singular thought within each reader. The goal of this book is to take integrated behavioral health and empower the reader to directly apply it to a singular thought through the (STTT )model. Everyone who makes “shit up” needs someone around who doesn’t, and I have plenty of those people in my life. So, no worries, there will definitely be an intellectual floorboard built for the big-foreheaded people who don’t like to use their knuckles and feet for breaks. Honestly, I want to make the conventional behavioral health academia stand up on its collective hind legs and howl loud enough so I can still hear it in my bad ear because of the overproduction of Frame- logy by definition, putting a pretty frame around an otherwise ugly ass picture. Still, that discussion is for another patient portal. If I can convince you to run your own fate, destiny, and karma, without outsourcing all three to the stupidest things out there, as our sponsor, the internet that gives every moment tutorials on “ How to F” your life up, then the proverbial rubber will hit the road. Keep in mind that sometimes a question doesn’t need an immediate answer but a journey and a future to gather the collective solution, and that will happen one thought at a time.

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Book Vision

Note: Why write this book:

The following is my vision for this book.

I believe the traditional therapy approach can be compared to the legendary "Kiddy Mafia" racket of "Build-A-Bear." They stuff you full of strategies, concepts, and other accessories you don't need, then grossly overcharge you when you're going out the door. Everything conventional in life starts as non-conventional. I believe approaching healing from a singular thought is very unconventional, disruptive, and breaks new ground in a very conventional profession. Like Willy Wonka can never make enough chocolate. I want the reader to embrace not only the idea but the "How-to Ability" that we can never make enough working thoughts (Isms) by using this process within themselves. A person could never accumulate enough outside thought resources by reading, social media, or borrowing other people's thoughts to match the average 6,000 thoughts within themselves daily. Another goal of this book is to create a very casual causation thread of how thoughts are connected and have an impact on our overall health and wellness. I want this book to avoid psych-babble and health lectures, but also not be filled with empty, unactionable platitudes. While traditional therapy theories engage problems/ situations, they skip over the power of one singular thought and how it can virtually take over a client's life. Ironically, problems and situations are just a collection of the same replicated (Minibites) traditional therapy flew over in the first place. Yes, traditional therapy can help clients heal, but only from the surface level, and true, sustainable transformation only happens from the inside/out of both the body and emotional soul. I don't want the conventional therapy process or healing to bury my unconventional approach. "I don't heal anything." I try to influence the transformation, which is way more reliable than rehab. Once you transform, you can never go back because your old life no longer exists. Rehab has a never-ending reverse gear. Feel free to contrast the conventional and unconventional, but I'm not trying to write a conventional therapy/healing book. I see some logical structure in the scope, but I also see the potential of my original brew being converted to a can of chicken soup that can be found on any "Dollar Tree" shelf, as I say in therapy. Same old shit but a brand-new co-pay. I'm not trying to be critical of traditional therapy approaches because they can help patients, but I do want to be "disruptive" if they're not.

Consider the unconventional approach of initiating the therapy/transformation process from a singular thought. Do some research and find someone who is doing that. I want as much of the original content as possible. If I don't recognize it after polishing, that will be fine, but I will know if it's not there and someone else's can of soup :) Remember, the goal is to transform the severe and profound and isms and make them actionable.

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Conventional Versus Non-Conventional:

Everything in life that is conventional started as non-conventional: In fact, a can opener started as non-conventional until it became conventional in everyday use. The goal or intent of this book is not to encourage patients to give up on conventional therapy or other forms of self- help to treat medical or behavioral health issues, but also to understand that both conventional entrance and on-ramps, impressively named 'best practices," could lead to the same old "Accepted"Failure Familiar" off ramp result loop unless your own built singular thought is driving your chosen self-care. A lot of my patients purchase self-help books and never finish them. I would like to offer up a few general observations on the reason for the interesting phenomenon pattern. First, self-help books mirror a lot of the professional therapists who write them. As some people who dress up like Amish carpenters to build your indestructible Amish shed but conveniently leave their tools at home, or actually have no idea how to build anything because they're not Amish. Then it turns into a WWE ultimate cage match of imposter versus imposter. Honestly, when we start writing about what we do, we stop doing it to a certain degree because the magic is in the moment. To be fair, the reader or patient contributes as well from the anxiety jumping out ahead and convincing them they are inadequate to apply something they don't even understand yet. Anxiety dispatches two of its most trusty thugs to do its emotional dirty work: Control and fear. These are the same folks who expect a mermaid to come up in a bucket from a country well in the middle of nowhere, or Elon Musk is their tooth fairy, or my personal favorite, the clever, intuitive patient that gets so puffed up knowing everything they get locked out themselves, and it turns into suspicion and paranoia on the outside. Mental illness is never going to allow something to be done well or finish anything, much less a self-help book, unless you build specific singular thoughts dedicated to self-help.

Sometimes a question doesn’t need an immediate answer but a journey and a future to gather the collective solution, and that will happen one thought at a time.

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