Have the Problem First: A New Approach to Anxiety

Themes: Future worry/planning
Helpful for: Anxiety, stress

As counselors, we often encounter clients who struggle with overwhelming anxiety, particularly around the concept of "having a problem." Oftentimes, we worry about things that haven’t even happened. We give ourselves a problem before it’s actually real. We worry about what “could” happen - and create anxiety in our mind and lives about something that hasn’t even happened yet.

When we hold onto the belief that we will have a problem, it becomes an endless mental loop. We start to anticipate future difficulties, replay past mistakes, and spiral into fear. This cycle of "having the problem" can lead to persistent anxiety because it creates a sense of urgency and a never-ending need to resolve something that might not even exist in the present moment.

Instead of approaching anxiety with the mindset that everything could go wrong, we have to shift to living in the moment - and with the problems or situations that are happening, if any. This shift can help clients separate themselves from the issues - potential or not -, allowing for a more grounded, mindful approach. By focusing on the present moment, we can address the issue at hand without letting it consume us.

In therapy, guiding clients to understand that problems are often transient, momentary experiences, not permanent fixtures, can reduce anxiety and restore a sense of control. When we stop thinking we have a problem and instead focus on solving the problem as it arises, we empower ourselves to manage anxiety with clarity and confidence.